These
are the continuing adventures of a Swedish immigrant during her first
year as an American. She boldly went where she'd never gone
before...please come along on Adventures
in America.
At
some point, I began to realize I was no longer a Swedish girl. I
was a half-Swedish, half-American girl, living in America, and though
Farmor & Farfar had done their best to make sure that SHOULD we
return, we'd fit right in, I was more an American than a Swede.
One
of their major gifts to both of us girls was that we went to
confirmation camp, the ceremony, and the wondrous party at their
house after-wards with all the expensive gifts. Think Bat Mitzah.
I've been a Christian since age 9, but in Sweden, tradition strongly "dictates" that all kids be exposed to the gospel at age 14
and be "confirmed".
I
also began to understand that though The Swede probably could have
gotten transferred to Volvo in Sweden, being as how he was Swedish
and all, he didn't really want to. He'd been
fascinated with this country for a long time, he was here. He
liked it here We were settled. We were staying.
This
realization didn't happen all at once, it was such a gradual process,
comparable to the proverbial frog being boiled: put him in a pot with
cold water, turn on the heat. He won't notice as the water
slowly heats up until he's in big trouble.
Of course, staying in America wasn't big trouble - what I'm trying to say is that becoming American was such a gradual process I didn't notice it. I mean, there I was 14, at confirmation camp, thinking, "Oh good, when we move back to Sweden, I won't have to explain why I'm not confirmed." It was that big a deal. When I found myself back there two years later when Swissie was confirmed and one of the girls, Ann (her real name, for once), whom I'd met when I was a "confirmand" and I were the free-time leaders, I still had that thought in my head, especially as I began to meet some boys.
Of course, staying in America wasn't big trouble - what I'm trying to say is that becoming American was such a gradual process I didn't notice it. I mean, there I was 14, at confirmation camp, thinking, "Oh good, when we move back to Sweden, I won't have to explain why I'm not confirmed." It was that big a deal. When I found myself back there two years later when Swissie was confirmed and one of the girls, Ann (her real name, for once), whom I'd met when I was a "confirmand" and I were the free-time leaders, I still had that thought in my head, especially as I began to meet some boys.
Now that was
a fun job. We organized whole group activities, like capture
the flag and red rover which I taught them. We played
dodgeball, which they knew about. We did NOT play kickball. We took them on canoe trips. We got our
canoe tipped...we were popular. Just a bit older, but
off-limits from the campers. Though not off limits from the
groundskeeper, Daniel, who had a best friend who hung out with him a
LOT, also named Daniel. I'm not kidding, it's a popular name.
Ann
and I and The Daniels would stay up late and sneak around the
property. The problem was, she and I conveniently each liked a
different Daniel. Inconveniently, that was the opposite of who
The Daniels liked. Sigh.
Nothing
came of that summer attempt at romance except one stolen kiss from
the wrong Daniel, who really didn't take the news that I liked the
OTHER Daniel very well. He stormed off and I didn't see him for
two days.
Coming
"home", I celebrated my 16th birthday. We'd been here
7 years. I was in high school. It was then that it really
sank in. How in the world would I transfer to a Swedish high
school? No problem, it never came up.
Your Reflections can be posted anytime from May 3 through May 10. The Linky List (which will be at the A-Z Blog) will go live May 3 and we ask you to add the link to your post, not your website, once you have posted. The Challenge hosts read every one so we know where to improve for next year.
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What
did you enjoy about the Challenge? It's Reflections Post time again.
- What could we do better next year?
- What issues did you encounter? (Word verification, unable to comment, long posts, etc.)
- Did you encounter many non-participants? (With help from our minions, we tried really hard to clean the list this year.)
- Theme or no theme – what seemed to work better? Did you find any great themes?
- Did you have fun and will you participate again next year?
Your Reflections can be posted anytime from May 3 through May 10. The Linky List (which will be at the A-Z Blog) will go live May 3 and we ask you to add the link to your post, not your website, once you have posted. The Challenge hosts read every one so we know where to improve for next year.
18 comments:
i am the first to say... this challenge has been a challenge. our host are the best, we endure the battle behind the scenes and most of us fell prey to some type of injury or sickness. no fault to anyone else i found myself unable to visit those people like last year and to that i have had many loyal faces and i am happy you all are out there... the future is uncertain and this is the big picture...
you have done a great job sharing your story and it's been extra cool to get to know you sis.... may your days get brighter and your challenge be fulfilling...
The challenge was great but I'm not doing it again next year. Still I enjoyed meeting many new bloggers including you. Moving to a new country brings it's own set of challenges.
You guys just slid right into American life, got comfortable, and stayed.
I really wish I'd written that Reflections part better...
smiles...it is a gradual change as we meld in to groups and society and often goes unnoticed which is what i think has been cool about your series....acknowledging it...
Ah, summer romance, I remember them well :)
Lucy from Lucy's Reality
Tina,
I've enjoyed reading your adventures of your childhood as a Swedish girl moving to the states.
As far as the challenge, it's been a challenge for me. My life has gotten busier, which is actually a blessing because I'm making more money, but it makes it tough to do A to Z. I'm doing it - but it's tough.
Although I won't be returning for a third year, it's been an absolute blast participating. I do plan on taking the rest of this year and into the next to read 5 blogs a day so that I can complete the entire list.
I was confirmed at age 13 after 2 years of instruction every Monday night. My parents asked me what gift I would like and I told them ELO's 'out of the blue'. It was a double album and I couldn't afford it with my allowance. They were crestfallen....said I'd never remember that as my confirmation gift. Yet here we are nearly 40 years later and I remember it like it was yesterday.
How interesting. Americans are rather self-focused in thinking their way of growing up is universal -- you are a more indepth person because of your twin experiences! Thanks for visiting my blog!
When I was in college, my two best friends were both named Shawn. I'll let you guess what everyone called the three of us.
I had no idea the state dictated anything about religion in Sweden. It's interesting to learn your perspective about immigrating to America. As a native, it helps me understand the issues of immigration with more compassion and understanding about them. Thank you!
The challenge has been great but also very challenging.
The only part that felt *bad* was feeling a bit ignored, while other blogs are not. It's hard not to feel left out or discouraged when you see other people promoted or retweeted when you are not.
I have tried very hard to visit as many blogs as I have time to and leve comments, but so many comments don't get responses, and I have come across a large number of blogs that gave up a long time ago. I don't know if there would be a more dynamic way to sort the blogs on the website to allow other bloggers to search by name, category, and recently updated. I think there should be a google plugin for that, maybe an imbedded spreadsheet of blogs or something.
I can see where the back and forth would have been a big concern for you. I really love these posts!
Hello Tina!
Sorry i'm so late to the party but i'm so glad to have discovered your post!
I loved this and will do my best to catch up with the rest of this story, may take some time.
See you around the web!
Beverly
http://bev-thebevelededge.blogspot.com/
Too bad it was the wrong Daniel.
All kids exposed to the Gospel at age 14? I really like Sweden now.
I've always lived in the U.S., but wonder how I would adapt to moving to another country. I suspect it is easier for children than for adults.
As an immigrant I can understand how you could become an American without realising it. A bit different if you are older I think.
JO ON FOOD, MY TRAVELS AND A SCENT OF CHOCOLATE
That was pretty inconvenient, that the Daniels got all switched up. It must have been a shock to realize everything that you did. I can't imagine anything like that.
Hi Tina .. I love the way you describe just gently slotting in .. I found going home from South Africa 'interesting' .. and we have different outlooks on life, having lived elsewhere.
The Reflections - I'll do anon ..
The Daniels story was fun .. cheers Hilary
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